When It All Came Together
Creativity, Connection, Compassion and Curiosity
Walking along a beach with my witch wife, T, we were mid-conversation when she turned to me and said, “You are so talented, you are such a creative.” It was meant as a compliment — but it didn’t land that way. I remember thinking, Wait… that’s not the full picture. Her words, though well-intentioned, felt like they dismissed the years of effort I had poured into learning, practising, and stumbling my way through creativity. So, being my honest self — and safe in the trust between us — I told her how I felt.
As we wandered, waves brushing against our feet, our conversation stretched and shifted. And somewhere in that rhythm of water and words, things began to click into place. I realised how often we reduce someone’s journey to a single word — talent — forgetting the backstory, the rituals, the persistence that brought them to this moment. What looks easy from the outside may have been hard fought. Every habit we hold, even the ones we don’t like, started somewhere. Every skill, every quirk, every strength has a tale behind it.
At the time, I was working as an internal coach in a company, slowly layering skills through courses and practice. Coaching was teaching me to hold space, to trust that clients carried their own answers, to bring curiosity instead of judgement. And as I reflected on that conversation with T, I saw how it all blended together: the persistence of creativity, the methodology of coaching, the purpose that underpinned both. They weren’t separate threads anymore — they wove into one fabric.
In journaling afterwards, I began to name the values that ground me — my 4 C’s:
Creativity is more than talent. It’s presence, practice, patience, and persistence.
Connection grows when we truly see beyond the surface of each other’s stories — the joy, the mess, and the whole wild journey.
Compassion is recognising the unseen struggles in everyone’s path and choosing to show up with kindness, always.
Curiosity means asking instead of assuming, listening instead of labelling. It’s not just a tool for conversations — it’s a way of living, flowing with questions instead of being blocked by certainty.
This is the ground I stand on, the space where my creativity and coaching meet.
And so, as I invite you into my rituals, I also invite you into your own.
What is one thing in your life that looks easy now, but was hard-earned?
I’d love to hear your story.
